|Unexpectedly loosing your job can be a very traumatic and distressing experience at the best of times. If you are over 40 and can't find the job you deserve, you will need great inner strength and self belief to come out on top.|
Could this be you?
Youíre working at your familyís welding business during the day, and then go to your second job at night. Youíre 50-some years old, working as a cashier at Target. You always said that if youíre 40 years old and have a career that requires you to wear a name tag, then to just shoot you!
Not that thereís anything wrong with working at Target or wearing a name tag or working the family business. Those are all honest jobs. Itís just that after 20 years with your previous company, and with your education and expertise, you hadnít exactly planned on ramping up to your golden years asking customers if theyíd like to save ten percent on their purchase by opening a store credit card.
You heard rumblings about the company folding. But as far as you knew, the numbers were good. At least they were good. unemployed, unemployment, downsizing, out of work, job seeker, redundant, fired, sacked
Then competition took over and the owners decided it was a good time to bow out gracefully. You were hoping you werenít going to be one of the countless main wage earners to get let go. But sadly, you were. Unemployment ran out. You sent out literally hundreds of resumes and still nothing. Your spirits are down, youíre frustrated (thatís an understatement) and you even had to humble yourself to get some help from a local food pantry.
Youíve done all the online courses; you have tirelessly pounded the pavement and scoured the classified ads. Youíve even hit up all the online sources to jobs such as www.monster.com www.usajobs.com hotjobs.yahoo.com and about 800 other job boards that you regularly surf. If one more person tells you that a door closes and a window opens or that good things come to those who wait, you think youíre going to puke.
You have a family counting on you; so now what? For starters, keep plugging along. Keep on keeping on. You know a job isnít going to fall from the sky, so you need to just accept that your job right now is finding a job. You are working and youíre working harder than most at this task.
More importantly you need to keep a positive outlook. Yes thatís easier said than done. But if you canít control the circumstances you can control your attitude toward it. You can either look at downsizing as an opportunity to do something different or to learn something new; or you can view it by accepting that youíve been dealt a bad hand of cards and now all you can do is play it out. Do not view yourself as a victim. No good will come from that attitude.
You wouldnít have advanced nor had the longevity that you did in your former career had it not been for your wherewithal and internal drive. You need to find that strength again. If youíre still having a pity party, itís time to get over it. If youíve sent out that many resumes and exhausted what you believe to be all your leads and youíre still bitter and feeling sorry for yourself, itís time to reevaluate. If you havenít already accepted a job that youíre overqualified for and underpaid, then itís time you did.
Pride can be our biggest downfall. Working a family business that you never wanted to, or working nights at the concession stand may not be what you envisioned for yourself. View it as temporary. View it as a paycheck. View it as an opportunity to network with people you would have never had the opportunity to cross paths. Maybe your next customer could be a business owner that youíve been attempting to get an interview with.
As for the people who give you clichťs Ė know that they mean well. People who have not been a mile in your shoes donít understand it. They donít know what to say. Remember downsizing sometimes sucks, but it may be forcing you into a new opportunity that you really love. Make the best of it.
About the Author
Roger Clark is senior editor at Top Career Resumes who provide free information to job seekers on all aspects of finding a new job and Medical Health News where you can find the most up-to-date advice and information on many medical, health and lifestyle topics.
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